For the most part we’ve all had to do it. The baby is gassy so Mom cuts dairy for a season. A friend is stopping by who can’t have peanuts, so we switch up our lunch menu. Or maybe Dad received a diabetes diagnosis, so sugary foods are removed from our cabinets and the family must go on. Implementing food changes can be easy...until our feelings and our kids’ opinions get involved, right?
Our family’s shift into going gluten and dairy-free came on pretty quickly. My sickness hit quickly and progressed rapidly into multiple autoimmune diseases alongside a hefty bout with mono. I had simultaneously just realized the connection to gluten and dairy as triggers for other health issues within the family, so we made those cuts house-wide. I spent the next 18 months eating the autoimmune paleo diet to heal and eventually reverse some of my autoimmune disease. It was a worthy endeavor, but it was tricky on my heart and on the day-to-day meal prep as a sick body with two preschool sons. I had to figure out how to skip eggs, gluten, dairy, nuts, seeds, nightshades, sugar and a couple other intolerances for myself while still feeding our family. And fortunately it was used for good as /I kept introducing my meals to the boys alongside theirs and slowly got to meld the two as the boys became more accustomed to variety.
For us, I was steering the food boat and the boys were tiny and riding it. I also had a lot on the line as I was significantly held back by my sicknesses and needed to get better for the sake of my tiny sons. Food changes aren’t always this pressing and can often be pretty tricky. In that season I learned lots about switching up foods, family-wide - to either widen our palates or meet our changing dietary needs. Here are some tips on making food changes, whether you make many at once or simply do a family-wide or individual food elimination for a few weeks.
Swap for a substitution
Basics first. Going to be eliminating dairy? Choose a replacement for as many places that you’d traditionally use dairy. Get wise about the available alternatives! There are many nut cheeses that you can grab to take for the girls’ night charcuterie spread. If you tolerate goat or sheep’s milk, perhaps you get familiar with local farmers who sell their cheese. Grab an almond, macadamia and coconut milk next time you’re at the grocery so you’ve got multiple alternatives for replacing your toddler’s nightcap. Whatever you do, don’t start you elimination until you have some substitutes for favorites.
Plan for those food celebrations
Our food gets us in our feelings a LOT so we want to be sure you’ve got options. Birthday party coming up? Grab a can of dairy-free icing at the grocery before hand or pop over to my pinterest boards to find a suitable birthday cake substitution. You can even search out local establishments that take the prep work out of “___-free” foods - a local allergen free bakery or even your local whole foods will have some easy options.
Approach food holidays and traditions with a plan. My boys and I do hot chocolate and whipped cream on Christmas Eve as a fun little nightcap. Weeks before, I spent a little pinterest time perusing through ideas for Christmas cookie substitutes and also made a plan to grab chocolate almond milk to easily heat and tossed a can of coconut cream in the fridge so I could scoop some “whip” into their cups. We didn’t miss out on the tradition and it was stress-free for me because I planned ahead. No one was sad and frankly - no one thought anything of the melty coconut cream because we were doing our thing.
Many items in small quantities
When working in new foods, present newbies alongside old favorites and cut down on the quantities you serve. When we’re adding a new item the boys haven’t had, I will make their plates with 3 pieces of each food available that night. They generally get to the end of their plate, are still starving and will often ask for more of everything without a second guess.
Prepare a food many ways
When adding in a new food, I often try to present a raw piece alongside a cooked piece. Tonight we had roasted broccoli, so I tossed a small frozen piece next to the roasted one and an additional raw piece. One boy ate all three, the other ate all but the frozen and just before bed they both asked to have a frozen piece to knaw on. Now. I can’t say that I would have ever thought of frozen broccoli as great, but the boys like it at the moment and I like that they’re chowing down on veggies before bed. I apply this rule to eggs a LOT. I’ll cook one egg scrambled, fry one next to it and slice a hard boiled egg in half. I’ll serve all three in a line and often they all get eaten and the boys have good questions about how they’re prepared, why they look that way, etc. Sometimes it earns me conversation at breakfast!
Present fun food right next to veggie
Shake it up a bit. Be wise about how you present the foods to your kiddos. I like to put sweet and boring foods right next to one another. I keep everything tidy and not touching because heaven forbid a child’s food touch! I make sure to make not make a scene about which foods are yummier than others or reserve foods for the end of the meal. If the boys want to eat all their fruit first - cool. They can eat all of their chicken last. It doesn’t matter to me the order, nor do I spotlight foods in lesser categories (veggies, eh) or “oooo!” categories (strawberries).
With kiddos, sometimes play is key. Both of my boys around 2-years-old were fascinated by dips and sauces. With every meal they got a dip or two and meal time collided with playtime. Dips can be anything from a protein yogurt to applesauce to pesto. The sky’s the limit when it comes to dips - remember that you set their food “norms.” Pesto is just as much a dip for chicken as ketchup is if you make it so.
My boys love it when I pair foods for them on the plate. If I think they’d enjoy their noodles with a dollop of goat cheese, I plate them next to one another. Since I know they love a dip for strawberries, I’ll put a dollop of coconut cream next to the berries and toss in a new piece of fruit they they may enjoy dipped. Shapes and skewers count as extras, too. Roll that pickle inside of a piece of salami and stick a toothpick in it? I guarantee you your son will try it. Call a skewere a fruit sword? Again….boys will down it all. My last trick to keep some small cookie cutters handy. I’ll press their watermelon out in fun shapes and eat the scraps myself. Adding a little fun in for busy bodies almost always helps.
This is a great option for when you’re eliminating a food group. Eliminating gluten family wide? Have a new-gluten night. Prepare a platter with several gluten free crackers, several vegetables slices in chip shapes and a few gluten free toast points. Serve the plate alongside a favorite dip or few and use this happy introduction as a simple way to show your family the alternatives available. Make food changes normal and brave by talking about them and letting the family experience the options.
Community plates can be great for kids to explore new foods, too. Weekly, we’ll do a platter lunch. I place 6 or so pieces of a bunch of different foods on a plate and we 3 will share the platter together. The boys get to watch me try the foods first and a younger brother will often mimic the older brother by trying something he otherwise wouldn’t. And bonus? Just one dish to clean up! It also makes for sweet conversation! Another variation of this is to put various foods in each well of a muffin tin. For some reason, digging in to grab their food is such a fun challenge and experiment.
Locally and seasonally
Take your family for a stroll through the farmer’s market. Give each child a bit of money to purchase what they like. Challenge the older kids to find a replacement food for the food they can’t have. Maybe you can add in a trip to the blueberry patch or strawberry field. When we’re involved in our food choices, we’re more likely to eat them. And bonus to eating seasonally and locally, these foods are usually a bit less money and better quality. Seek out local foods and bring the kids along - you’ll be surprised what you find in your own community!
Whatever you do, play it cool
When I present a new food or drop a less-loved food onto their plates, I typically deliver the plate and resume what I was doing in the kitchen. Or I’ll set their plates down with mine and move right into prayer and eating. I don’t watch their plates. I don’t comment on the new or missing food. I don’t ask their opinion, I get right to eating mine - usually leading with the least loved food that I fed.
Water cures all
My final tip is one your Mom told me to add. Water covers a multitude of sins. It’s a rule in our house - if you’re struggling, have an attitude, were rude, seem weary, have a headache, don’t want to get moving, your belly hurts...pretty much anything - you can down a glass of water. There are miles of reasons for why hydration is so effective, but the biggest shift I see when I ask my littles to drink a glass is their disposition. We start every meal with a juice glass full of water and they are expected to complete the glass before their next meal. It’s easy, but it keeps everything and everyone moving as it should. It also keeps everyone a little more willing to try new things!